Seattle, Washington

Why I am Not Getting Married In Church

Ever since I was a little girl I always pictured myself getting married in church. I grew up in a very strict Seventh-Day Adventist home. My mom was very strict about keeping the Sabbath.  What is Seventh-Day Adventist? Seventh-day Adventist Church is a Protestant denomination that grew out of the Great Awakening of the 1840’s, but didn’t become an officially organized church until 1863.


Fast forward to today and the Seventh-day Adventist Church has become the fast-growing denomination in North America with 1.2 million members in the United States and Canada and 18.7 million members worldwide, in 209 countries. In addition, few research found that the Adventist Church is the most racially diverse denomination in the United States. The Seventh-day Adventist Church is also most commonly known for its worldwide hospital and education systems, adherence to scripture, promotion of total body health, and observance of the seventh-day Sabbath or Saturday.

Growing up as a young Christian lady it was very important that I dated someone who was the same religion as me. I never really understood why. When it came to that and other things I always had a different view. I have always been the type girl who walked to the beat of her own drums. I never judge anybody based on their religion. The first thing I see in people is their hearts and that’s exactly how Michael stole my heart.

Everything that I learned in church and from my Mother about finding the perfect young Christian man is exactly what I found in my Husband. An amazing man who didn’t belong to my church. I wasn’t going to let an amazing man pass me by because he wasn’t SDA. Now looking back, I am so happy that I followed my heart.

Religion has never been a problem with Mikey and I. If you are wondering Michael was born and raised Christian. In his words ” He is a Christian under construction”. To be honest Mikey and I are very spiritual people than religious. I have never once asked Mikey to convert to become a SDA. I am firm believer that religion isn’t something you force upon someone to your benefit. However, Mikey and I have attended my local church together and in which he enjoyed. So, when it came to planning our wedding and where we wanted to have our wedding ceremony didn’t even think about it twice but to have it in church. Boy was I wrong.


When reaching out to my local Seventh-Day Adventist church to find out the necessary steps Mikey and I needed to take in order to get married in the church. I was asked many questions in which I answered and was quoted the price of how much it would cost to get married in the church. However, one questions changed everything for me. The lady asked me if Mikey and I were both SDA and I said no. They told me in order for us to get married in church Mikey would have to get baptized in a SDA church, because ” WE ARE UNEQUALLY YOKED”. I was completely in shock by her statement. I can’t force my religion upon Mikey just to get married in church. This is a very serious and personal decision between Mikey and God. I told her thank you and hung up.

With the news of Mikey and I not being able to marry in church traditionally we have decided to have our gorgeous wedding ceremony on the waterfront at The Woodmark Hotel. It’s absolutely a stunning venue. The reception to follow we secured an entire beach front venue that is remaining private until we get closer. The surprise is well worth it and we are ecstatic about celebrating the start of our union surrounded by our family and friends.

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xoxo,Frilancy Hoyle